CRITICISM. Even the word conjures up an emotion and apprehensive nature. Criticism is often associated with delivering an unfavorable assessment of someone else’s effort. When the table is turned and we are the receiver of criticism, it can really elicit a reactive response and trick us into reinforcement habits. This journey we call life is full of opportunity for growth as we know. Some times these moments of growth however are not as apparent as we would hope, and more often clouded by our own ego or simply conformational bias that clouds our ability to see an opportunity for change.
On giving criticism, there are times we might be called upon to deliver a grounded assessment of another’s behavior or way of being that might be showing up counter to what is expected or intended. These situations are often difficult and have the potential to be handled recklessly and received by the one being criticized in a potentially confronting way. As a caution, sometimes we can become so jaded that criticism of others becomes our own way of being, and thus draws us deep into drama, becoming an expert persecutor, victim and rescuer on the fly.
Being the receiver of less than favorable news or observation can really mess with your head. Sometimes these criticisms come during times where we fully believe we are at our best. Remember that it is never easy for someone who cares deeply for you and your success, to give you the tough stuff. How can we become a glad receiver of key detail to help us become better? Are we capable of releasing our own self interest and attached ego, by continuing to shed the shell protecting us from new growth? Who do you NEED to hear these things from? A colleague, trusted mentor, spouse, one of your children? Will you run from or intentionally lean into this opportunity?
I would challenge you to evaluate where this type of dialogue and vesting in your own growth can become an ongoing and vital part of your own growth journey.
I can promise you from first hand experience that this is difficult, but when received in humility and from a place of love and respect for the one giving you their best in an earnest effort to help you see, feel and hear the bell toll, it has the power to transform your relationships and partnership with those people in your life who matter most.
In closing, I’d like to share the quote I shared a few moments ago: “Don't mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it. If it is unfair, keep from irritation. If it is ignorant, smile. If it is justified, learn from it.” - Anonymous
CRITICISM doesn’t have to be a pinch point in your life. I invite you to engage in the sometimes difficult, yet pivotal conversations.
Remember that growth is always a choice.
Until next week my friends, make it a great one, and remember to always...HONOR.THE.GIFT.